
So I noticed I haven’t posted in over a month. Most of the reason for my latest episode of blog-neglect has been completing my work placement in a CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) team, as well as a bunch of deadlines. Now the placement is over and I’m trying to arrange my thoughts before I move on to try working in a new area.
- Children aren’t terrifying. Nor are adolescents. Ok, the adolescents can sometimes be a little scary. They’re different from adults. But they’re not that different. (Deep, huh?)
- Children can be hard work. But more often, the parents are harder work. Often there’s at least one adult in the family who you really think could do with their own support and therapy. But you’re treating the kid, so you work with what you’ve got and try and feed little titbits to their parents, hoping they’ll take the initiative to get help themselves.
- You can’t just have a chat with a young child about their thoughts and feelings. Sometimes working with them involves playing games or drawing pictures for an hour. Great fun.
- Sometimes teenagers tell you what’s on their mind straight out, and it’s not very nice. But it can be refreshing, it’s not stuck under layers of social acceptability and adult repression.
- Teenagers can be completely pre-occupied with seemingly minor details of social interactions, who spoke to whom, text messages sent, who passed out and got a cock drawn on their face. This is normal. A whole hour of it can be a little tedious though.
- Children need their parents to be consistent and put boundaries in place. That’s pretty hard to do in practice, especially if you have two parents with very different approaches, or are rushed on time and stressed. Sometimes when the children come in to the clinic, it’s the only time when that stability is maintained.
- Professionals seem to have a lot of hope in child services. Maybe because we can’t see people spending decades in and out of treatment. There seems to be less focus on psychiatric labels and a lot of positivity and thinking about growth and recovery.
- Being a parent is a hard job, there are so many different demands. I don’t have children and I’m impressed by the parents I see, even the ones that make mistakes. Although I know parents can’t get it right all the time and only need to be ‘good enough‘, I’m still scared of having children!
- It’s hard to be a parent when you didn’t have a good experience of being parented yourself.
- Parents can be difficult, sometimes treating you like a kind of expert-saviour, and sometimes as a punitive figure who continually withholds and disappoints them. Some parents try to play me off other professionals, in my team and in other services. It’s hard not to get swept up in it, and to take a step back and think about why they might be doing it, or how I might be encouraging it.
- Many little boys are boisterous and energetic. A lot of children don’t get much attention unless they’re badly behaved. Quite a few of these kids will get a diagnosis of ADHD.
- Teenagers can be ambivalent about attending, and not turn up rather than let you know. Parents do this more than I expected also.
- Most parents are scared of social services, being blamed for their child’s problems and attending a group with other parents.
- Children say fascinating and hilarious things. They have such interesting theories about the world.
- It’s hard to know how much responsibility to encourage a young person to take for their own treatment, when they’re not in a position to take on much responsibility in their life.
- I feel quite young, but to a child or adolescent, I’m part of the grown-up world, and I’m old.
- Before young people come to CAMHS, they’ve often seen a school counsellor or two first. Often this has been a religious counsellor, someone prone to lighting incense and wearing long patchwork cardigans. Understandably, they are a bit wary when they come to meet yet another therapist.
- CAMHS is staffed by a bunch of mums and they’re continually leaving to go have babies.
- I’ve been continually worried that I’m either being patronising or talking to young people like they’re adults, and it’s going over their heads. But so far there seems to have been no ill consequence.
- I would consider working with children and young people again. I’d probably still prefer adults, but I’m not as opposed to it as I once perhaps was.

